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Asha Sanaker's avatar

I will say that of the many good things that came from my divorce, one was certainly being disabused of the notion that I would be able to prevent my children from ever experiencing pain, particularly pain around family, which is one of those themes I return to over and over again. Now what I hope, and this has come to be true over the last 11 years, is that when we experience pain we keep each other good company. And I am realizing that is both more realistic and much, much more meaningful.

Having come from a family where there was a lot of addiction and violence, even as we were progressive people of faith, I wrestle in my writing (and in my life) continually with the notion of integrity. What is it? How do you actually practice integrity as an inevitably imperfect human? How do go about working through your periodic failures of integrity, both internally and with others, so that you can get back to yourself and function lovingly and honestly with the people around you? I circle around this continually because, as Toni Morrison used to say, I'm trying to write the thing I wish I could read. Certainly that I wish I could have read when I was growing up and being taught, emphatically, how important it was to live with integrity but not being offered any useful information about *how* to actually accomplish such a thing.

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Debbie Weil's avatar

Maggie, I’m a new fan and just want to say hi. I’m a writer and editor and podcaster. I loved your new memoir! Esp. how you structured it in short chapters and kept asking the same question over and over. I can’t lay my hands on my copy so I’m not remembering the exact phrasing. I puzzled over that question!

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